16 things I learned in 16 years.

To the person waiting for a change. I have felt your pain as I’ve learned and grown older, and wiser. I wanted to spread light upon a topic that is extremely important to me.

Love.  At a young age, you watch as others around you perceive love. You watch all the fairy tales and chick flicks, and believe that in the end, things will never go sour. As much as everybody wants to believe that things always will work out, they don’t.

As you grow up you go out into the world of dating (as I have been trying), you get your heart-broken for the first time. There is nothing more hurtful in this entire world, than being told you were not what somebody wanted. That you did everything for this person but it never seemed to be enough. It’s not your fault. You are everything. If somebody is not thankful for your presence in their life, than they are not the ones you need to be wasting it on. Being enough should not be what you are looking to change. It is the standard you hold for yourself.

“If you miss somebody who does not miss you, or is no good for you, or is unattainable, take the love you love felt for them, and spread it in other places. Put your love in worthwhile people and things. Turn the romance into passions and hobbies or admiration for others enrich your own life. Focus on yourself and those who actively make you happy”

-anonymous

Standards are so important for love. I fell into my own trap many times. Every time I received attention from somebody, I fell in. I didn’t know better but to believe what they were telling me. Chances are, they are doing the same exact thing to others. They are feeding you what you want to hear; even though, most of the time it’s not going to happen. I had to change my standards. I realized that I was being walked upon, because I was allowing it to happen. I was taking attention, from anybody that wanted to give it to me. So I changed that. YOU, need to change that. Wait for somebody better than that. One day you will come upon somebody that won’t give up on you. That isn’t feeding the same silly comments to everyone else. They will realize how amazing you are. The best things always take time to come. Stop hurting yourself in the process.

Also, in the mean time in waiting for this person, you need to love yourself first. The most important thing is knowing who you are and what you know you deserve. You are deserving of love, kindness, and care. Do not settle for anybody who won’t provide that for you. You do not need anybody who thinks of you as any less of what you think of yourself. You are deserving of somebody who wants to see you at your worst times. You are deserving of somebody who would stop at nothing, just to see you smile. Someone who would drop anything, to provide for you. Someone who enjoys and takes pride in the things you love. Somebody who would love you through anything. Do not settle for anything less, darling. There is a person out there waiting for you. Stop searching. At the right time, they will find their way to you.

Lastly, always remember that no matter what you will always be enough. These people who left you, never intended to stay. They did not deserve you. Love is never going to be a walk through a garden. Sometimes it’s that walk through the rain. It’s never going to be easy finding the people that deserve, and don’t deserve to be in your life. But you will figure it out along the way. You are going to get your heart-broken many times. It’s reaching down and picking up the broken pieces with a smile. Realizing that you will find the one who will do it for you one day. Time and patience is the best key to a strong; healthy relationship. You deserve nothing but the best, love.

Do not settle for anything less.

“Do not chase another human being, instead chase your curiosity. Chase your development and your goals. Chase your passion. Strive to work for something better than yourself, and instead of trying to convince somebody that you don’t fit into their world-build your own”

-b.s

56 thoughts on “16 things I learned in 16 years.

  1. Excellent! Excellent! Excellent Izzy!! I’m so proud of you and your growth and wisdom. Keep sharing your learnings with the world. You are an amazing young woman.
    Love ya!
    -Philip B.

      1. Yup.. it is😆 What you are doing is great and you are so young and talented. Keep writing and polishing your talent. You have a beautiful name. What exactly does it mean ?

      2. I know being a teenager isn’t easy. Everything changes. I am not saying that life is easy or difficult for you. I am just saying it is a very complicated phase. Teens usually drift away towards wrong stuff but are very talented and blessed with good writing so keep this up

  2. Dear Isabella,

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    Millionaire’s Digest Magazine Founder & CEO

  3. You have great insight for a sixteen year old. I feel blessed to have read your blog this morning. You have an amazing gift and God has an incredible plan for your life.

  4. What an amazing read this was. I just have to say I think you are a fantastic young woman, definitely an old soul and you are going to go on to achieve even greater things. Because at such a young age I think you offer more wisdom than some of the people I know who are my own age and I’m in my forties. I’m loving the book that your reading. It is lovely to see that your consciousness has expanded because of them and your own life experiences. You are in touch with that inner magic which as they say can create/manifest anything that you desire. Keep fabulous like you are and stay aligned and you’ll do it all. Your blog was well written, insightful and there is so much wisdom bubbling from your words. I was so impressed with it that I’ve just read it to my daughter who is in her twenties and she said exactly the same as me you are an old soul and then she then asked me to send your blog through to her. which I have done. So you now have two more followers. Keep up the great work. Have you ever read the secret book and the power by Rhonda Byrne. I think you would like them books. Many thanks for your wisdom 🙂

    1. Thank you so much! That really made my day and I will continue writing! I love to share my thinking with the world and I’m very glad that you enjoy it. Please continue to read my posts and give me feedback, it would mean the world ❤️

      1. You are very welcome! That is good to hear that you are going to continue writing. You have such a lovely style of writing. I certainly will continue to read your blogs and give you feedback. It is lovely to connect with another creative <3

  5. This is one of the most encouraging and inspiring posts I’ve seen so far! Your words are really wise despite such a young age! Keep writing, I love your posts 😉

  6. Hi Isabella, I’m AppleBelle. I’m 16 (almost 17) too and I just thought to say thank you for following my blog. I have followed you also, I read your recent posts and you are a great writer!

  7. For a 16-year-old you are very wise and your writing is wonderful. Keep writing, growing, and living. At 16, I was in a creative writing program and I can honestly say that writing has saved my life. I wrote my way out of every negative situation that I found myself in and I keep writing because when I do I feel home. Words are my gravity and they are also my wings. You have something important to say, so write for yourself and never stop. I enjoyed reading your post!

  8. I love the way you can look back on your life with such clarity and learn so much from your experiences. (I only recently turned 16 & I’ve learned quite a lot from a bunch of changes in my life lasg year but I’m so eager to experience more of life and keep learning more about myself!) I usually can’t keep a super long attention span for longer posts but this was really intriguing.

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